Letting Go of Past
This past Saturday, just before the snowstorm arrived, I had the opportunity to sit in a circle with three beautiful women, reflecting on the release of what no longer serves us in relationships. Together, we honored the goodbyes—some to people from our past, others to parts of current friendships that no longer nourish the connection itself. It was a profound and tender ceremony, a space to unravel with love and intention.
This powerful exchange of thoughts and emotions was guided by Faith Ulsh, LMHC, and my dear friend Katy Gennaro, who hosted our circle at her beautiful yin yoga studio, Receptive Giving.
Relationships are like rivers—sometimes they flow beside us for a lifetime, and sometimes they diverge, carving new paths we never expected. There is grief in letting go, even when we know deep down that a friendship (or relationship) no longer nourishes us. But there is also a deep well of wisdom in honoring the endings, just as we celebrate the beginnings.
When a Friendship No Longer Fits
Not all friendships are meant to last forever, and that’s okay. People grow, change, and evolve—sometimes in different directions. What once felt like an effortless connection may now feel strained, unbalanced, or distant. Maybe there’s been an unspoken shift, or maybe there was a rupture that couldn’t be mended. Whatever the reason, recognizing when a friendship no longer serves your highest good is an act of self-love.
The Grief of Letting Go
Losing a friend—whether gradually or suddenly—can feel like heartbreak. We might replay memories, wonder if we could have done something differently, or struggle with feelings of guilt. It’s important to acknowledge that grief is a natural part of change. Just because a friendship ends doesn’t mean it was a failure. It meant something. It was real. And it shaped who you are.
Releasing with Love
Instead of holding onto resentment or sadness, try to release the friendship with gratitude. Honor the lessons, the laughter, and the moments that were beautiful. A simple practice is writing a letter (even if you never send it) expressing thanks for what the friendship brought into your life and gently letting it go.
Creating Space for New Connections
When we let go of friendships that no longer align, we create space for new, aligned connections to enter. This doesn’t mean rushing to replace what was lost but rather trusting that the right people will meet us where we are now. Friendships, like all relationships, thrive when they are rooted in mutual respect, understanding, and reciprocity.
You Are Not Alone
If you’re in the midst of releasing an old connection, know that you are not alone. There are seasons of solitude, but they are not permanent. There are new friendships waiting to bloom, connections that will meet you in the depth of who you are now.
Trust the unfolding. Let go with love. And know that as you evolve, so will the people who walk beside you.
♡ — Nadine Tlili